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Monday, 19 January 2015
How My Husband Slept With My Two Junior Sisters
Dear Randomgist
Kindly post this for me, i need your reader’s advise on how my husband slept with my two junior sisters that lived with us.
I have been married for 10+ years and thought I was happily married till some weeks ago. From the fourth year into my marriage my mom advised us to take on 2 female relatives. One was 22 and the other 13 at that time. In 2010, we noticed that the older of the girls had become so close to my husband to the point that anyone could easily conclude they were intimate. She became rude to me but got closer to my husband and he never saw anything wrong with her attitude. He would take her to school (UNILAG) and pick her up regularly. He would gladly buy the exact items for her and myself whenever he traveled. Several times he gave her large sums without my consent or knowledge but thankfully it all came out through her mom.
He blurted out once that she had STD and I was quite embarrassed that he would know that about her if nothing was going on. In the end we decided she couldn’t go on living in my house and my mom came to take her away her even though my husband kicked against it furiously. The younger one stayed on and that is now my greatest undoing.
She grew up quickly and she is now 20 and in her second year in University. She recently sent her Dad (who lives in Lagos) a suicide message stating that she was going to kill herself if she is allowed to continue staying with us. Her dad has now called me to say he followed up with the suicide message and she confided in him that my husband dis-v!rg!ned her at 15 and had continued to sleep with her till she put up some resistance late last year. She said he is also with her roommate and claimed to have seen a message from the girl to my husband implicating him. She also said that she had caught my husband and the older girl that left in 2010 in suspicious positions before the girl was sent away.
I have confronted him with all these and he is not giving tangible reasons to disbelieve the girl. Truth is I know he did these things because of other things the girl told me that I have since confirmed one of which is that he brought a stray girl (18 yrs) into our home under the guise that she was a distant cousin’s daughter. It turned out he met her randomly and merely chatted her up.
My Pastors have intervened and told me all these are true but that “he is a man and will never openly admit it now”. They are asking me to let go for the sake of my children and the marriage. I am however upset that he will get off this easily and the innocent girl will not get justice. Should I cover his sins and appeal to the girl’s father who has indicated that he will do as I advise or should I insist that he is made to apologize to the girl? I keep thinking what if she is my own daughter!! I am at my wits end trying to figure out if I should act as a wife or a mother! Will a good wife cover her husband’s sins???
Help! My HouseMaid Is Tempting Me
Dear Randomgist
I’m a pastor, but I also work as a civil servant. I would have loved to write further about where I live, but for the same reason why I can’t mention my name, I can’t tell you where I’m writing from.
This young lady was brought to my house by my wife sometimes in 2010, and had just completed her secondary education last year. She is supposed to pick up a form for her higher education because she is related to my wife; distant relation, sort of.
Frankly, she has been very good, and has been taking care of my only daughter since my wife put to bed late last year. Her presence is a big relief to me and wife because we are both very busy people. My wife works with a bank, and sometimes come home around 8-9pm.
Lately, this young girl has summoned courage to seduce me; to be sincere, she is tempting me.
I often return to the house ahead of my wife. Sometimes, because of hold-up and other issues, I will get in around 5-6pm. She started by running to embrace me with her transparent-short gown to welcome me each time I knock, on arrival. I was shocked the very day she did that. I felt so embarrassed. “Even if I had traveled to space…hun! This one is just too much… hun!” I soliloquized in my bedroom after she had dropped my office bag and ran out to get my food. This continued for 3 weeks. Sometimes, her bosoms will just slip out of her ‘top’ and she will simply apologize. My wife has never met her on that gown as she wears another cloth when it’s almost time for my wife to return. I have developed double minds about her. I have had different evil thoughts since this whole thing started. The one that happened last was the way she sat facing me, with her legs wide opened. I left the food that I was eating and walked to the bathroom to do nothing in particular. I had thought she would adjust as soon as I returned, but she didn’t budge. I think I fell into her trap finally that day. I almost had it with her when I grabbed her, and she jumped at me. We started that regrettable romance before God intervened with the sharp cry of my baby. That was what saved the day.
The next day, I had told my wife that we should send her away, but she vehemently refused to accept my suggestion. She had asked me to give some reasons why we should send her away, and I had told her that she was getting so stubborn and lazy; hence, she is as good as no House-help.
My wife who claimed she had never experienced that had accused me of formulating things against the lady. She told me that I wanted her out of the house because I had seen that she will soon secure admission into the higher institution, and I will soon begin to pay for her school fees. I couldn’t tell her the truth, because something tells me it will be disastrous. I just felt I could handle the matter in the most professional way. But right now, things have gone out of hands since the past 2 weeks. I have done virtually everything that can be considered dirty with her except that I have not done it with her yet. What’s keeping me from doing it is my conscience and for the fact that I can’t do that in my matrimonial home.
That sin will be so grievous, I know. She had asked me repeatedly last week if she can meet me in any of the hotels around town this weekend since my wife will be around then. She has just Saturday and Sunday to take care of her hair and visit friends, and she wants to use that opportunity to have me all to herself. Now, I’m contemplating on this issue. All I need is your advice; Saturday is just 5 days from today, and I can’t make up my mind on what to do. I love my wife, but I think I’m becoming so foolish in the name of being faithful. Please, tell me; should I do it or not? It has gotten to the level where I cannot tell my wife the truth because she won’t even believe, since I had told her a different story before. She will see it as blackmail.
Your reaction will either encourage me or discourage me, even though my mind beats faster, and something tells me to do it. Should I?
Ladies, See the Things that Can Make Your Man Perform Well
We are in a generation where most ladies want things to happen just the way they want it and you are a man who can’t satisfy your women then you are in some serious trouble, whether you know it or not. So, here are the stuffs that can help men live up their women’s expectations in the bedroom:
1. Bananas – Men who successfully gain inches usually have healthy hearts. It has also shown that the potassium found in bananas aids in the health of the heart health and also helps one with proper blood circulation. With this good circulation of blood and a healthy heart, it makes p*nis growth achievable. Eating bananas will also help keep men body’s sodium level low which aids in the prevention of heart diseases and other related heart problems.
2. Salmon – This fish is rich in essential fatty oils such as omega and helps in developing the p*nis fast. These healthy fatty oils helps in the thinning of the blood (lower viscosity), which in turn aids in the circulation of blood around the body. Research has shown having a healthy blood flow is one of the main factors in achieving stronger, stiffer erections.
3. Onions – Well, many do not know but many of today’s top researchers believe that onions are also an essential food for healthy circulation of the blood. It also aids in the prevention of blood clots. This carries a great advantage to increasing the circulation of blood to the heart as well as the p*nis.
Ladies, over to you. Help your man to serve you better. *wink*
ADVICE NEEDED: I SLEPT WITH MY BOYFRIEND’S FATHER AND HE IS FAR BETTER IN BED THAN HIS SON….WHAT SHOULD I DO?
My story is brief and straight to the point:I’m a 38yr old lady who is independent but I regret not getting married in my mid and late 20s when men were in serious demand for my hand in marriage. I kept saying I was not ready and now I blame myself for all am going through after I turned 33 five years ago. But I met this young guy, he’s 30yr old. I love him and I told him my real age and he’s ok with it, maybe because am financially stable and spend my money on him
Fast forward to last December, I met his father and one thing led to another and the man passed a night in my apartment. It was very hot! He performed far better than his son in bed… My boyfriend’s father is 57, divorced and he is madly in love with me. He even give me money to increase my biz not like his son who collects from me. The man is ready to marry me but my problem is that I’ve slept with his son and I still do it with him once in a while just to satisfy him so he doesn’t suspect his father. But I can’t continue to sleep with father and son though I’m enjoying the father’s “juice” more.
Pls what can I do?
Monday, 12 January 2015
SEE What Men Really Want: 8 Qualities Women Have That Men Can’t Just Resist! [Photo]
Here are the 8 qualities that every girl has and that men are really looking for in their relationships
1. Cares unconditionally
It doesn’t matter if you’re the ultimate feminist or super independent — there’s something inherently rewarding when you truly care for someone else.
Putting someone else’s well-being above your own doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your wants or needs, it means that there is someone in your life who you’re excited about, who you genuinely believe is the most special and deserving of your love.
If you really care for your partner, you’ll feel satisfaction from his happiness as well. Women are naturally compassionate, and when a man sees just how far your kindness goes, he’ll appreciate the extent of your selflessness.
2. Understanding without placing expectations
Most men aren’t great at sharing their inner feelings, but women are really good at picking up on them regardless. Especially when he makes himself most vulnerable, she’s there to support him and accept him no matter what.
Understanding him without placing expectations means that she can appreciate a guys’ night, doesn’t put demands on him to get a more high-paying job and knows that the way he unwinds is by watching hours of sports. She gets him, she’s grateful for this person he is and she finds fulfillment in knowing every inch of him.
3. Letting him be the gentleman, but stepping up when it’s her turn
Girls like it when the guy plays into the gentlemanly role, but they won’t hold back from assuming less-traditional gender responsibilities as well. She wants him to be the man, protect her and possess physical strength — and it’s important for him to fill this need too.
She also knows, though, when it’s her time to pitch in, like carrying her own bags through the airport or planning a romantic evening. We’re able to take a backseat when he wants to show-off his manliness, but we’re also ready and willing to relieve him of his duties at any moment.
4. Having her own opinions on things
Nothing is more attractive than a girl who knows her stance on a topic and is able to eloquently articulate it. If she can teach him something new, life together will be a lot more interesting.
A real man appreciates a woman who has her own mind and is confident in her beliefs. It can be as simple as knowing useless facts about the cytoskeletons of bugs or as complicated as debating stricter gun-control, either way, she has something to say and it won’t be boring. The most beautiful part of a woman is what’s inside her head and how she uses it.
5. Putting on the moves
A woman who knows how to pleasure a man (and vice versa) is key in any healthy relationship. We’re not suggesting that his satisfaction is more important than hers — they are equal — but she can get turned on by turning him on, all on her own.
Remember that line about finding fulfillment from his happiness? That holds true in the bedroom as well. Trust us, if you let him in on what you’re capable of, he’ll always be wanting seconds.
6. Making him feel like The One
At the end of the day, we all want to feel like we’re extra special to the someone whom we regard as extra special. He likes that you can get the attention of other men, but that you don’t need it for personal validation.
You like being the only girl in the world for him, and he is even more grateful for that in return. Loving someone who loves you back is the ultimate compliment. It can’t be bought, it can’t be replicated and it lasts forever.
7. Looking nice
Girls enjoy dressing up for the men in our lives to take notice. Whether this means wearing our intimate undergarments or just taking the extra time to put in our contacts, we’ll take care of ourselves because we like feeling our best selves around him.
Men can’t resist a girl who is put together and looking good, even if that’s an easy t-shirt and loose pants.
8. Intriguing without being unavailable
Men like that we women are complex without being impossible to figure out. They enjoy taking the time getting to know you by peeling back all your layers, but they’re frustrated if you’re too overcomplicated.
Women who possess a natural mystery are endearing to curious men. Your shining personality teaches him how to sparkle on his own — and the ability to build another person up is one of your most invaluable gifts.
REVEALED: 5 Moments When You Should Definitely Kiss Your Partner

Kissing is an act of intimacy and love. A kiss shows how much you care for your partner. More than anything else, a kiss makes you feel good. In case you are wondering when is the right time to shower your partner with all the affection by planting a kiss on their lips, let us help you. Read below to know about some great moments that you can seal with a kiss.
#1. At the end of the first date
This is especially for you if you have recently started your relationship with that special someone. At the end of your first romantic date, you will easily know how it went. The awkward stare, the exchange of romantic glances, trying to find excuses to hold hands, or saying something charming or flirtatious- all will be loud hints that your date is expecting more from you. This one is especially for the guys- if you see her giving subtle hints, don’t waste time because this might be your first step towards taking more serious steps! Gently hold her in your arms and kiss her. The moment will be magical. But remember not to force yourself or rush in, as it might ruin everything. In fact, a tender peck on the cheek might do more good for your relationship, rather than a long, passionate kiss.
#2. Amidst the work stress
Often life moves too fast and leaves us chasing. The rush to meet deadlines, the hurry to reach office, and returning home tired, makes both partners forget the value of showing affection. But this in fact is one of the best times to plant a kiss on your sweetheart’s lips, or even the forehead or cheeks. It doesn’t have to lead to anything steamy; but just that one kiss will make them feel relaxed and refreshed. Just make sure of your surroundings and the timing though. You know your partner well, so do not make the move at a time when they are visibly irritated or in the middle of a phone call!
#3. After a fight
Kissing is the perfect way to make up after a fight. Not only does it make you forget all grudges, but it has also shown to channelise energy into quite passionate lovemaking (even more reasons now to make up!). However, one of you has to let go of the ego and step down for things to move forward.
#4. When on a holiday
Alright, so this is a given, isn’t it? Think again. You will be surprised to know that many couples forget to be affectionate even when on a vacation; especially those who are travelling with kids, or are too stressed out about problems at work or home. But did you know that you can make your vacation even more romantic than your honeymoon, just by starting with a tender kiss? This move by you will make your partner forget all worries and tensions, and just give in to the moment. Make it a point to shower them with kisses every morning and night while you both are there, and see how this works magic for your married life. The romance will linger on much longer than you expected, even after you are back into the busy routine
#5. When going through a hard time
Kisses serve both ends of the spectrum in a relationship. Not only they radiate happiness, but also absorb sadness. A kiss from your partner when you are down, have lost someone close to you, feeling lonely, or just going through a gloomy phase, can lift you up instantly, and make you recharged to continue your life with a smile.
A kiss is not meant just to start some hot action in the bedroom! In fact, it is so much more than that. The emotional bond and connection that it initiates is beyond anything else. We have told you about five best times to kiss your sweetheart. But, we are sure you will come across many more reasons and occasions, just make sure you don’t miss any!
5 Simple Steps To Enjoy Bedroom Moment With Your Partner
Ask not what your bedroom can do for you, but what you can do for your bedroom. Many of us are focused on self-growth and self-reflection when it comes to enhancing our s*x lives — and there’s nothing wrong with that! But most of us aren’t even aware of the importance that our environment plays in having a better s*x life. Sadly, we often neglect the place where most of the action takes place: the bedroom. Have you really looked at your bedroom lately? Go ahead, give it a once-over. Does it invite intimacy? Is it
comfortable? Does it feel like your sanctuary? Or could it use some improvement? Below are some totally doable tips for creating a bedroom that will not only enhance your s*x life, but become a refuge from the stress of daily life, too.
1. S*xy to the touch. A cozy comforter makes you want to slip into bed, and soft sheets complete the experience. Remember, only a few throw pillows … you don’t want to ruin the romantic moment by doing manual labor to clear yourselves a spot on the bed! Plush carpeting is always nice, but if your budget is an issue, a soft and furry throw rug creates a comfy landing for your feet … or for the both of you, in case the mood strikes before you make it to the mattress.
comfortable? Does it feel like your sanctuary? Or could it use some improvement? Below are some totally doable tips for creating a bedroom that will not only enhance your s*x life, but become a refuge from the stress of daily life, too.
1. S*xy to the touch. A cozy comforter makes you want to slip into bed, and soft sheets complete the experience. Remember, only a few throw pillows … you don’t want to ruin the romantic moment by doing manual labor to clear yourselves a spot on the bed! Plush carpeting is always nice, but if your budget is an issue, a soft and furry throw rug creates a comfy landing for your feet … or for the both of you, in case the mood strikes before you make it to the mattress.
2. Pleasing to the eye. Most importantly, clean and unclutter your bedroom. By doing this, the possibilities are endless for decorating and accessorizing your room to make it a s*xier haven. The allure of the bedroom is truly enhanced by the color you choose for the walls. Visit your paint store and ask for suggestions. Lighting is everything, so to enhance the effect, forget bright lights, and transcend the space to a warm glow with dimmed table lamps, wall sconces, or candles. Choose wall hangings or pictures that are sensual and/or soothing — no photos of your kids, or your mom and dad staring at you!
3. Sweet in scent. A freshly showered partner can be a turn-on for some, and for others, there’s simply nothing s*xier than your partner wearing the perfect cologne or perfume. If cologne or perfume aren’t your thing, opt for some incense or scented candles that can quickly activate your desire. For some, opening the window and letting fresh air into the room is all that’s needed to set the stage for intimacy.
4. Music to the ears. Music is an important component that can send you to a place where your cares are gone and your partner is your prime focus. Soft background music or even a favorite album that you remember playing at the beginning of your relationship is all that it takes. Remember, music to your partner’s ears can also be your own voice saying “I love you.”
5. Pleasing to the palate. Known by the Greeks as the “food of the Gods,” one of the top natural aphrodisiacs for men and women is dark chocolate. It contains two key ingredients that increase desire and heighten s*xual arousal. You don’t even have to worry about the calories because all of theactivity under the sheets will burn those instantly! If you don’t like chocolate, find something that appeals to the both of you. It doesn’t matter what you eat, it’s the act of feeding each other that can be s*xy and exciting We’re all different, so use these tips as ideas to create your s*xy bedroom … the place where you’re dying to go to for love, s*x, and connection.
TIPS: 15 Easiest Ways To Satisfy A Woman In Bedroom

Use these 15 tips to satisfy a woman in bed and make her want more of you, even if you've been in the same relationship for a very long time. This 15 Easiest Ways To Satisfy A Woman In Bedroom works like magic and im sure you will never regret reading it.
1 - Go down on her. If all else fails, this usually succeeds. If you’re having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her and spend a gentle while down there. Almost always, this would help build the momentum for a great night ahead.
2 - Take time during foreplay. Most men hurry the foreplay bit without any consideration for the woman they’re with. Just because you’re up and ready doesn’t mean your woman is ready too. Take your time before penetration, and both of you will enjoy s*x a lot more.
3 - Remember her erogenous zones. The typical erogenous zones in a woman are several, going from the back of her neck, her ears, and all the way to her knees and her toes. But each woman has a few special sweet spots that switch the button on instantly.
Kiss and nibble the entire length of her body and make sure you remember the zones that excite her more than the others. It’ll always come in handy the next time you want to arouse her faster.
4 - Don’t roll over and sleep. Falling asleep immediately after s*x is a good sign because it means you’re secure enough in the relationship to just enjoy the relaxing after-s*x sensation without having to worry about awkward moments.
But there’s a thin line between being secure and taking your woman for granted. Cuddle up after s*x or indulge in pillow talk for a while. Or just fall asleep in each other’s arms.
5 - Your hygiene matters. Looking good for your woman makes a huge difference in the experience she has in bed. After all, a better looking partner is more of a turn on, isn’t it? But you need to remember that looking good doesn’t just mean a six pack abs.
Have a shower if you’re making love at the end of a long day, and keep all those hairy regions clean and trimmed. Smell great and feel great in bed, and your woman will definitely have a hard time keeping her hands off of you!
6 - Kiss and tell. Women have an active imagination and tend to rely on feelings more than visual appearances. If you want to turn your woman on and satisfy her in bed, arouse her mind by using the right words. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears or talk about her favorite fantasies. As long as you excite her mind with your seductive words, she’ll have an orgasnm that’ll grip you hard down there.
7 - Don’t be selfish. If you want to know how to satisfy a woman in bed, this is as simple as it gets. Put your woman’s needs in bed before yours. Understand her preferences in bed, be it about the dim lighting or the right side of the bed, and make sure she’s feeling comfortable enough to enjoy having s*x without any insecurities or awkwardness.
8 - Experiment all the time. The most boring of s*xual relationships are the ones where the couples just do the missionary and don’t experiment at all, be it about positions or about dirty conversations. If you want to do more than just satisfy your woman in bed, try new things all the time. If you feel like a particular s*x fantasy or a particular position is starting to get monotonous, freshen things up by trying something new.
9 - The right compliments. Women love appreciation in bed. It makes them shed their inhibitions more easily and gets them to experiment in bed sooner. When you’re naked in bed with your woman and find something fascinating about her, make sure you share the thought with your woman. She’ll feel better about herself and her new s*xual confidence will definitely lead to better s*x.
10 - Trigger zones and fantasies. Do you have any fantasies that make you hard as soon as you think about it? Well, girls have their own trigger fantasies too. For some girls, it’s a s*xual fantasy while for others, it may be an erogenous zone.
Speak to your woman and find out what turns her on instantly. It’ll play a big part in turning her on, and at times, it can help her orgasnm sooner when you can’t hold on for too long.
11 - Play with her body. Just because you’re inside of her doesn’t mean you should stop focusing on the rest of her. Play with her body and move your hands all over her. Massage her, stroke her and grab her all over. It’ll turn your girl on a lot more than just focusing on the missionary.
12 - Refresh s*x all the time. The primary reason why s*x starts to get boring is because it can get rather repetitive after a while. The typical foreplay-followed-by-missionary-position s*x may be the most comfortable of all positions and it may feel intimate too, but every now and then, try something new just to bring a change into your bedroom.
Try role playing, dirty talking or a few s*xy games in bed. Just when s*x starts to get predictable, bring an interesting twist into it. By refreshing s*x all the time, you can make each time you make love with your woman feel like a one night stand!
13 - Bite, l*ck and s*ck. Kissing is sensual and romantic. But don’t stop there. Let her feel your passion when you bite her and tongue her body. And here’s something to remember, a good love bite in the strategic regions will still feel just as passionate to a woman even after several years of going out with each other.
14 - Be outrageous. S*x gets s*xier the more wild and outrageous it feels. If you want to satisfy your woman, learn to get risqué with your actions. Do something bold now and then, and s*x will feel a lot more exciting. Have s*x near an open window, use blindfolds, grope each other on a dark dance floor… The wilder your thoughts and actions, the s*xier the s*x will be.
15 - Her orgasnm first. The last tip to satisfy your woman is only the most important one. The perfect orgasnm is the high point of lovemaking. And if you orgasnm before her, it’s almost certain that she’ll have to make do without an orgasnm. Control your erection better and learn to hold on for longer, so you can satisfy your woman completely before you orgasnm.
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