notion to sleep with them! Respect
your body and theirs!
2. Don’t go searching for a virgin, if you
are not a virgin yourself. All the girls
you have massacred, who will marry
them. Besides, there no record that
virgins make better wives or are more
faithful in marriage.
3. If you are a “modern man,” don’t look
for a “village girl that knows nothing.”
Soon you will start complaining that
she is too local to fit into your circle of
enlightened friends. Besides, a village
girl may “wise up” and trouble will start
in your home.
4. Don’t look for a girl that is afraid of
you: a girl you can always intimidate.
Fear is not respect.
5. Don’t be carried away by a girl’s
physical features: beauty, height,
complexion, shape, chest shape, size
and firmness, etc. They matter but
they are not critical. In the long run,
child-bearing and age affect these
features. Besides, when you have
married a woman for some years, her
physical features stop “turning your
head.” At that time, what will attract
you to her will be what is inside of her:
intelligence, wisdom, self-control,
patience, peace, gentleness, etc.
6. Don’t be interested in a girl because
of her wealth or her parents’ wealth.
Even if she is richer than you or her
parents are richer, make it clear from
the beginning that you will take care of
your marriage yourself or that both of
you will take care of your marriage
together. Don’t accept your in – laws
taking care of your family
responsibilities. Let them allow you to
build your own home. After all, many of
them were poorer than you are now
when they got married. If they want
you to upgrade to their level, let them
support your business, eg by supplying
their goods to you to sell and make
your OWN money.
7. Look for a girl that shares many
critical issues of life with you. And you
will find these out during
discussions and interactions. For
example, if you love bribery and she
hates it, it may cause you problems. If
she loves going to church and you hate
it, it may cause problems too.
8. Look for a girl that not just loves
you but respects and admires you.
When “love intoxication” wears out,
the respect she has for you will keep
her going. Also look for a girl you
respect, so that she will not start
irritating you later in life.
9. Look for a God-fearing lady, not a
religious one. A religious person can do
anything, but a God-fearing person has
a conscience and will never think of
certain things.
10. Look for a friend, not a saint or an
angel – saints are usually
acknowledged after they are dead,
while angels live with God in Heaven
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