s*x, communication is everything.
Simply put, authenticity is everything.
It's not always easy to be transparent
when you’re getting to know each
other, but it’s 100 percent necessary.
Keeping things honest will help you
avoid leading Mr. Wrong or turning Mr.
Right off. Be yourself and be real. Little
white lies will get you nowhere,
especially in these 10 categories.
Your Birthday
I know the rule: You never ask a woman
her age. However, when it comes to
dating, this rule must be broken. Don’t
lie about your age. If he’s turned off, at
least you will know where you both
stand immediately. Lying about your
age will instantly make you seem
insecure, especially if you’re older.
How Much You Like Sports
Your interest in sports isn't as
important to him as you think. As long
as he can watch the game especially
football, he's fine. You don't have to
watch it with him. If you really aren’t
that interested in his favorite football
or basketball team, it shouldn’t bother
him one bit. But if he takes sports
seriously and you’re misquoting stats,
butchering player's names and feigning
interest in the score, it will be more
annoying than endearing. He will know if
your interest is genuine or not, so don’t
fake it.
Your Number
Discussing your sexual history is
always tricky, but it's unavoidable if
things between you are becoming
serious. I know all women won't be in
agreement here but, when it does come
up, I say be open and honest about it. If
he asks how many people you've slept
with before him, don't give him the
"safe" number. Give him the real one. If
he can't handle your answer, that's on
him—not you. He should've taken heed
when his mother told him to never ask a
woman a question you don't want the
answer to.
Your Cooking Abilities
Nothing’s more disappointing for a man
than to be promised a "life changing"
home-cooked meal only to be served a
plate full of watery macaroni and
cheese and questionable meat. So you
don’t know your way around a kitchen,
that’s fine. It doesn't make you less of a
woman. Tell the truth and give him the
chance to impress you with his skills. If
you’re both clueless, you can always
order take-out.
Your Marriage Goals
Most women assume that talking about
marriage will scare a man off, but that’s
false. The man that’s right for you will
want to know where you really stand—
especially if he’s on a different path.
There is a way to be open about where
you desire to be in the future in terms
of your relationship without putting too
much pressure on the present
situation. Saying you don’t want to be
married when you clearly do, will send
him running for the hills.
Your Real Thoughts On His Inner Circle
If you’re not “cool” with his inner circle,
you shouldn’t pretend to be. While you
should keep an open mind when getting
to know them, it's imperative that you
find a way to be open with him about
your reservations instead of forcing
yourself to hang out with people you
just don’t care for.
How Cool You Are With Him Having
"Female Friends"
Not every woman will be comfortable
with her man's best friend forever
being a female. This is something you
must be honest with yourself and him
about up front. The issues you overlook
in the beginning can potentially become
romantic barriers later on down the
line. Don’t tell him you’re “cool with it”
when you’re not. He’ll see right through
this one fast.
The Ex-Factor
If your ex is still in the picture, say so.
It’s just as important not to hide a
connection to an ex, as it is for him to
reveal any women in his life. As long as
you both keep it real in this
department, there will be no unwanted
surprises.
Your Bedroom Activities
Don’t ever tell a man he’s the best
you’ve ever had unless it's the actual
truth. You may want to feed his ego,
but it won’t work that way if you’re
lying. If you tell him he's the best then
he has no room to improve. Compliment
him but don't overdo it. He’ll appreciate
it the realness.
The "Real" You
Additions and enhancements are cool,
but at some point the man you’re dating
should be able to meet the real you. I
am attempting to tread lightly here. I
know that at times certain outfits may
require some "help.” But don’t let
padded bras, body shapers and hair
weaves mask the real you. That’s who
he is most interested in, promise. Or at
least, Mr. Right should be.
Written by Kevin Carr author of If All
Men Are Dogs, Then Women You Hold
the Leash And Published 1st At www.gist4today.com
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